ABOUT ME
Hi, I'm Dee. Take a breath, unclench your jaw, lower your shoulders.
Welcome.
Whether you're bedsharing or crib sleeping, nursing or formula feeding, or somewhere in between - if sleep feels hard and you don't want to leave your baby to cry, you're in the right place.
Mission: To hold space for the becoming - and help new parents orient back to themselves and toward their babies, with the knowledge, confidence, and trust in their own instincts to navigate infant sleep in a way that works for their family.
How did I get here, to infant sleep?
I had a long, traumatic labor and birth, ending in a transfer from a birth center to the hospital. After my son was born, I couldn't put him down. I slept with him on my chest the entire hospital stay. The plan at home was bedside bassinet plus bedsharing after wake-ups. The first night we were home, I put my tiny baby into that huge bassinet and felt like an appendage had been cut off. We pivoted to full-time bedsharing. The bassinet became a laundry basket. He's now a year old and we still bedshare full-time.
I'd planned a six-month maternity leave, but the moment my son arrived, I knew I couldn't go back to working away from him. I didn't have savings to stay home indefinitely, so I started figuring out how to build the life I dreamed of - one where being with him was the priority, and where I could help other mothers find the calm I'd been lucky enough to stumble into.
I have been fortunate to be surrounded by people who support my husband and me - bedsharing, nursing on demand, babywearing, cloth diapering - I didn't receive any backlash about any of it (ok, maybe my husband initially was on the fence about cloth diapering but he came around eventually!). But I know most mothers do, and it makes them doubt what they know in their heart about how to raise their baby.
I went looking - lactation groups, newborn subreddits (I ended up moderating one on biologically normal infant sleep), endless Instagram reels - and kept landing on the same thing: sleep is one of the biggest struggles new parents face. Then I found Brittany Chambers (@goodnightmoonchild), and her message confirmed what I already felt: there's another way to approach infant sleep that most parents don't even know exists. I enrolled in her Integrative Infant Sleep Practitioner course.
That course taught me about biologically normal infant sleep, neurological development, polyvagal theory, and the nervous system - and it reaffirmed what I already knew: our babies need our support, not training. Through deep dependence, strong independence grows. I'm one of about 40 practitioners certified through this course, and I'm still changed by it in ways I didn't expect.
I'm not going to fix your baby - because they aren't broken. I'm going to teach you how to collaborate with your baby to create a life that feels restful.
What do I believe?
I believe babies arrive more in tune with their bodies and needs than any adult - they have never had to hold their bladder, ignore a hunger pang, or stay awake through a boring college lecture. They just can't roll over, grab a snack, or use their words yet. They rely on us to interpret their cries and meet their needs. Through nervous system co-regulation and attunement, we support their development. I don't believe independence or sleep is taught by leaving an infant to cry alone. I do not believe we were made to do this alone. It's a cliche but it is true - it takes a village to raise a child. I want to be part of your village.
When my son cries, I feel it in my core, and I have heard from many other mothers that they do too. My approach will always point you toward listening to what your body tells you and responding quickly - picking up, singing, bouncing, nursing, attuning with your baby. I look at your whole family's nervous system, not just your baby's. Much like the cells in our body rely on each other, take cues from each other, function together as a whole, so does the family unit. This is tensegrity - what you do to one part affects the whole.
What working together looks like
In our first call, we'll talk through what's keeping you up at night (besides the baby), look at your family's daily and nightly routines, and screen for any medical red flags - if something comes up, I'll help you find the right professional. From there, if you want to go deeper, we'll figure out what your baby and your family need to feel rested.
I also hold monthly Zoom classes for new and expecting parents on biologically normal infant sleep - email me to join.
What's next?
I will be working towards becoming an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) eventually, as well as a doula.
Who am I outside of infant sleep?
First and foremost I am a mother. My son is my life, and you may well hear him on our calls. I work within the cracks of motherhood, outside of the expectation that a mother must separate from her child to be able to offer something of value to her community. I hold the same space and grace for your little ones during our time together. Never apologize for your baby.
I'm also a maker - painting, crochet, embroidery (my favorite: precise control and the chance to stab something a thousand times), one failed knitting attempt, and one winter of making roughly 200 paper snowflakes. I read constantly and write occasionally, working on not letting perfect get in the way of putting my ideas out there. I love the ocean, the mountains, and the rain, which is why I stay in the Pacific Northwest.
I try to be genuine in everything I do - friends come to me when they want the truth, said gently. I believe if you can be nothing else, be kind. I was the black sheep of my family and now I'm a cycle-breaker, raising my son differently than I was raised. It's hard. It's worth it.
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